Monday, March 14, 2011

let's get real.

I've been thinking and was inspired by another blogger to get real. I think blogs can trick many into believing in a false world where creativity is a breeze, parenting comes naturally, struggles are rare, dishes and laundry do themselves and time tends to stand still. This just isn't reality.  And I feel I should be a little more honest with my reality. Here's a glimpse of what I mean...

marriage:


blog life~ I woo my husband. disagreements, irritations, even fights are way beneath us.

reality~ we argue sometimes. socks left on the floor drive me crazy. i don't think the best of him always. i struggle putting his needs first before mine.

parenting:


blog life~  I pour into my daughter in a number of ways and laugh at little things like spaghetti all over the place right after a bath and clean floors.

reality~ I struggle to find a balance between her and my own selfish desires. I can get easily frustrated. There a lot of times that I spend more time blogging about her than I do teaching and playing with her. 

chores:


blog life~ I am wonder woman. everything gets done, i look fantastic while i do them and everything rolls along smoothly.

reality~ i hate chores and there are a lot of weeks that i skip cleaning the upstairs all together. laundry can accumulate for weeks, dishes sit in the sink, and they are a constant reminder of what a poor job I do sometimes as a stay at home wife and mother.

time:


blog life~ It stands still so I can accomplish everything and record it all for my prosperity.

reality~ It is moving so rapidly that i find myself panicked at times at my overwhelming in ability to accomplish everything.

blog comments:


blog life~ they encourage me, create new friendships, and are an incredible delight.

reality~ They are all of the above AND I put way too much emphasis on them. I check my inbox constantly. I worry and feel bad when no one comments. 

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really, the list could go on and on.
let's face it we all put on an image for the world to see
and there is no sin in that but there is a problem
when you begin to worry way too much about 
what others are thinking of you
instead of being true to yourself.

let's be honest... i struggle with that.
but
the best thing about a new day
is trying harder
being better
and looking forward.

here is to trying to keep it somewhat real.

10 comments:

Elizabeth Larson said...

OOOH I LOVE your baby shower post! Seriously LOVE those ideas! So stinking cute!! And yes, this post is all too real how most of us lady-folk at home feel. It's time to get real girl! You are so right!! Thanks for the inspiration! XOXOXO--PS- Would you help me make some pom-pom tissue paper ball things?? I am DYING to make some for kylers b-day par-tay on saturday...lemme know.

The Carter's said...

Just wanted you to have a comment, to let you know that I love reading your blog:)

Mandy said...

I figure if I need to do laundry more than once every 2 weeks, we don't have enough cloths. ;)

Madison Grunig said...

Nobody is wonder woman, so don't feel too bad about that. Great post.

Josh and Becca said...

{LOVE} this post!!! Soooo true right? You have such a way of writing. I LOVE it.

me and him said...

so you're saying we have a lot more in common than i thought. love it! but we have to admit, it's sometimes fun to pretend life is so perfect! love your blog.

kj said...

I love everything about this post.
Honesty wins you friends and fans. :)

Toni said...

I love you. Enough said. (and isn't that all that matters?)

Shane and Kelci said...

Kenz this was awesome. I am so guilty of reading other blogs feeling like shiz that they are perfect and I am so far from it. It's really nice to bring reality into things! Life is hard and is sometimes a hot mess! I too am guilty of all your realities and so much more :) haha!

The Riding Family said...

Kenzie,
I love this post! It is so true. By the way, so glad you went public with the blog because I never could get into it. Claire